What is the "failed sisterhood"= Single black women that have a history of dysfunctional, toxic relationships; a cynical/negative outlook on black men and relationships.  If you desire a healthy, happy relationship in your life, surround yourself with people that ACTUALLY have this.  If you're not sure if this is you, take a look at the TOP THINGS WOMEN SAY that are a part of this group.

1."'I'M NOT GONNA GET MARRIED JUST FOR THE SAKE OF BEING MARRIED."  Im convinced this is the convenient go- to statement for frustrated, confused single women. If you're not even getting asked out on dates by quality men, being courted or physically unattractive to the opposite sex, you will NOT have to worry about being married. No one is really checking for you and your chances are extremely low anyway. Question: when was the last time you were asked out by men that you actually liked? If it's been a while and dusty negroes are the only ones asking you out, you have "dusty residue", sis and is a clear reflection of you. 2. "I'M HAPPY BEING SINGLE HAVING THE SPACE TO DO WHAT I WANT, ETC" If you're happy in your life, this is great but let's not pretend that being alone is the Ideal situation. (especially if you're a single mother) Two things to consider: A. If you are NOT celibate with this type of mindset, by default you are signing up to be the FWB (friend with benefits chic), and side piece. None of these are good examples if you wish to raise productive, healthy black children. (would you want this for them?)B. Honestly, what the hell are you doing that requires this much space?? This is also a cop out and usually an indicator of someone that is emotionally damaged and/or incapable of making a deep, meaningful connection with a man. 3. "MARRIAGE IS OVERRATED" Having a loving partner to be your rock through life's challenges, supporter of your dreams, and building a solid foundation to leave a legacy is one of the greatest gifts one could have. THIS is #winning On the flip side, playing Miss Independent, filling your void with a chic wardrobe, overpriced hair do's, career pursuits, and having a squad of other frustrated single black women to support this lifestyle IS SUPER OVERRATED. You may have cool gal pal getaways-only to return to an empty home with your wine, cat and Netflix account to greet you.  4. "I DON'T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY" This is true. Happiness begins within. But let's get a little deep for a sec. 1: Are you really "happy"-what does happiness look like for you? 2: When you are truly happy from within, you will vibrate love from your core which will inevitably attract the same. This will show up in your life in the form of loving relationships including one with a great man. So if you ARE happy, it's only a matter of time before you meet him.  5. "I KNOW A LOT OF MARRIED WOMEN THAT AREN'T HAPPY." This is a HUGE indicator that you ARE NOT seeing positive images of black love in your life. Simply put, you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang around. Plus I'd be willing to bet you are regularly programming your mind with toxic forms of entertainment filled with broken, dysfunctional black relationships. (see past post-Beware of The Failed Sisterhood) Basically, you turn into what you're tuned into.  6."IF IT HAPPENS, IT HAPPENS" This is the biggest cop out in the history of single-dom. All this says is you have ZERO game, (game=effective method of finding quality men and/or communicating with the opposite sex) and are not actively putting yourself out there to have great love experiences. Just admit you don't know what the hell you're doing in the dating scene and are clueless about how to attract love, chile. lol. This language translated= I've given up. (also see church ladies waiting on Boaz/dating Jesus) 7."I'M OPEN TO DATING WHITE MEN BECAUSE BLACK MEN AREN'T STEPPING UP OR HAVE THEIR SH*T TOGETHER.  Seriously…GIRL BYE! A: If you're honestly attracted to someone, this is fine. HOWEVER, if you choose a man because your first choice wasn't available, this is so lame and leads to a ton of negative implications in the future. (would YOU want someone to choose you for this reason?) B: You'd be hard pressed to find a white man that truly understands your journey as a black woman.  Don't take my word for it though, here is a very candid interview with Robin Thicke about why black women should NOT date white men. [http://atlantablackstar.com/2011/12/22/robin-thicke-discourages-black-women-from-dating-white-men/] SN: This is also a dangerous form of self hate and does NOT help the black community move forward. >>>  Take a detailed look at these pics again. You reeeaally don't want none of that? 🖐🏿P.S-If you think like this- unattractive, single and 35+, You as you are likely a lost cause.If you don't know how to leave the failed sisterhood, let's talk: http://returningtolove.doattend.com