Luke Cage married a snow bunny. And I'm totally unbothered. "Bouncing on a black d*ck doesn't make you down for the cause". Pt.1

Here is how actor, Mike Colter responded to fans after receiving criticism for marrying a white woman:
[“I’m a human being,” he starts. “I look at people [for their] character and what is inside… I met my wife when I was struggling and in grad school. She stuck with me for 16 years … She held me up many times.”]

"Swirling" or interracial dating is often glamorized as a lifestyle for those that are open minded and liberal. It is seen to be a choice that makes one believe that they have ascended into colorblindness. But, on the contrary, interracial dating can actually enable systematic racism. The whole notion of “I can’t be racist, I have a black lover” is used to validate obvious racist behavior and pathology. So, what is the connection between race and romance? Dating a black person for a few years will not cure centuries of hate. Remember, it is possible to love black sex without actually loving the black community. And believe it or not, our deep seated beliefs follow us into the bedroom. The black penis, punani, pussy, yoni or whatever you choose to call it can heal many things, but white supremacy and white privilege is not one of them.
When we fall for someone, we share the most intimate parts of our soul. Unfortunately, for our people, our soul is filled with stories of intense trauma, internalized racism and the constant struggle to love who we are. Let's be clear: It is impossible for a person to love your body and not join the fight to protect it. The fetishization of black sexuality assigns our body only to the lustful/erotic. It's easy to see in our culture, that non-black people aren't down to protect our bodies as much as they want to penetrate them.

If a white person does wish to date an individual of an oppressed group, (and yes, black people are oppressed) it is your duty to truly understand the pain that comes with it. If you chose to ignore their historical struggle, you won't understand their actions, their language, their culture and what makes them who they are. Jumping up and down on a black dick or penetrating a melanated punani does not mean you know what it is like to live inside that black body nor will you fight to sustain the life inside of it. The next time you're out with your interracial lovers, just think about what, if anything they are DOING to better your community. Remember, silence is an action but love is too.

And for all the sisters itching to get their swirl on, I'm gonna cover more of this topic in another blog post where I will share my own personal interracial dating experiences, straight no chaser.  Plus, there are several things that I'd like to share as an attractive black woman to set the record straight.
(see "Bouncing on a black d*ck doesn't make you down for the cause" Pt.2)


Here is the REAL state of black love and the reason I mentally yawn and give the side eye to the interracial relationship talk.